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Dilemma being solved?

If any of you remember the post Dilemma, you know I’ve struggled with Avery’s naps. Only a few days out of the week, but enough to affect her behavior and inconvenience the rest of us who like to make public appearances every now and again =)

So here were my steps to try and solve her little resistance to sleeping.

First: She was so tired, and I was sick of listening to her whine on the days she didn’t sleep that I tried using my authority as her parent to force her to sleep. I gave her consequences, she lost a lot of privileges and special toys, and she experienced times of isolation from the rest of the family.
Result: She started rebelling every time I put her down for a nap, not just the 2 or 3 days a week that she had been. She also started screaming in her bed as opposed to laying there quietly like she had been doing. This eventually began affecting her at night and every night Brent and I would sit and listen to her scream for 45 minutes. All in all, the sternness brought out the Avery we hadn’t seen since she was a baby!

Monday morning, after a weekend of Avery being isolated from the family because she had gotten so out of control, I sat at the kitchen table and pleaded with God to give me some direction. I knew she needed the sleep; her behavior was proof of that. But I didn’t know how to stop this downward spiral we had gotten on because when Avery feels backed into a corner, she fights. And when she starts fighting, she’ll fight to the death. I wonder where she got her stubbornness from? =) I also knew I couldn’t allow her to scream in her bed for 2 hours during nap because I had 4 other kids who needed to sleep. But at the same time, it had been such a battle that I couldn’t take her out of her room so she thought she had won because then we would have to fight the battle even longer. I was clueless about what to do! The Lord was very faithful to answer and give direction to me that Monday morning. This is what the result has been this week.

Happy and Sad faces. 3 out of 5 happy faces isn’t bad when you’re on the road to recovery =) After her first 3 smiley faces, she even earned gum from the video store! She needs 4 more to earn her rocking chair back.

Looking back, I wonder why I didn’t think of it sooner. I know Avery is a fighter. I know Avery does not respond well when she feels pressure. I know the way to her heart is through rewards and positive reinforcement. I mean we have charts and rewards things all over the house. I guess the desire and the ease of authoritarian parenting is always going to be appealing though. Its much more time consuming to tailor your parenting to the individual heart of the child. I guess its one more time that the Lord is teaching me that I definitely don’t have it all together as far as parenting goes!

Favorite Passtime

Can you guess Avery’s favorite activity?
We went to the mall to play and all she wanted to do was sit and read books.Boxes are great places to read, don’t you think?
Goldilocks and the Three Bears is currently the favorite book around here.
If you ask Avery what her favorite toy is, she’ll say books. If you ask her what she wants for her birthday, she says books (well books and light up shoes. But books usually are at the front of the line) If you ask her what she wants her birthday cake to look like, her eyes will light up and sparkle as she screams “lots and lots of books!” It will be interesting to see where this passion for books takes her.


It was a rainy day today because of Ike. The girls saw that it was going to rain all day and decided they needed to play in their “boats” in order to stay dry. They had a great time pretending to ride the waves from the storm in their boats.
Notice they both remembered their babies and food and blankets for the babies while they were in the boat. Surprisingly, their boats were good entertainment for most of the morning! Fun things can happen when you’re stuck in the house in the rain =)During Elliana’s morning nap, the rain stopped for a bit so we took Avery out to ride her bike. She decided that in order to get out of her boat, she was going to need to put a life jacket on. Good thinking right? Although the rain has been great, I’m not sure the “boats” will be all that exciting by tomorrow. Maybe Ike will have moved on by then?!!

Family Fun Day

It’s Friday again, which means its Family Fun Day for the Minter family=)We spent most of the day today baking and cooking for our friends who just had a baby. We started by making some good pumpkin pie. Avery got to help stir and add ingredients for the pie filling.
Elliana just wanted to sit at her table and eat whatever mom and dad were willing to pass her way.
As soon as everyone woke up from naps, we headed to the Born’s house to take them dinner and some pie. Josh and Brent took all the girls to Grapefest before dinner to see a petting zoo while Ellie and I doted on Porter, their new baby. After dinner, we had a pretty great dance party going. Notice Avery in her ballerina outfit…she’s way into dancing and being a ballerina these days! Here is the little man himself, Porter Jacob Born. I wish I had a video of both girls loving on him. He was definitely the highlight of the evening!

Fall yet???

I was “that mom” yesterday. I didn’t know Elliana knew what a pumpkin was until we walked by them yesterday at Wal mart. When she pointed and said “pupin peeese”, I thought it was so cute, I grabbed one for both girls. Elliana carried hers around the house all day long.
I totally justified my purchase though by thinking to myself that I would just use them to make a pumpkin pie for a friend who just had a baby. In fact, I was probably going to buy them before my daughters looked at me with their big blue eyes and said “peeeese” =)
Is it too early to decorate pumpkins and make pumpkin pie? I guess all this rain and cool weather has made me think Fall has already arrived!


Brent wrote a great post about his dates with Avery. He has this great audio of her calling him at the office to remind him of their date. Its adorable! Click here to check it out.

Family Fun Day

Friday is family fun day around here. We had a low key family fun day this Friday.
We started the day building some good old fashioned forts out of the kitchen table. Free fun and hours of entertainment for two little girls. Although I did feel old b/c it wasn’t quite as comfortable as I remember it being as a kid =)We then took a trip to a neighborhood park to search for fish and play ourselves into exhaustion in the hopes a taking really really long naps! We finished our day with some turkey burgers and baked beans. Elliana calls them her “ba ba beans”. As Avery learns her letters, she’s learning the sounds for the letters as well. “ba ba B” has been the favorite sound of the house, and Elliana has picked up on it. Almost every word that starts with a B, Elliana thinks you have to say “ba ba” before it. It makes Brent and I laugh.

A Little Sad

Over the holiday weekend, I worked on Elliana’s closet. I finally got all the clothes that were 0-12 months out of the closet, in bins, and put away. (I know, I know. She’s 16 months old and I’m way behind on the whole organizing clothes thing!) I also went through all Avery’s old clothes and pulled out all the 12-18 month clothes that Elliana can wear right now. In the process, I found the shirt she’s wearing today. I put it on her this morning, and I immediately got sad.
The time has flown by so fast! Below is the picture of Avery wearing the same shirt 2 weeks after we brought Elliana home from the hospital. How can my baby be that big already????

You Decide

Yesterday at a friend’s birthday party, I overheard Brent telling someone that our girls weren’t really all that “girly”.
This morning they woke up and both wanted their hello kitty necklaces and bracelets on, their hello kitty socks on, Avery grabbed her purse and her chapstick and then they started playing. So you decide…girly or not?

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